I love this reward system. It is easy to understand, visual and teaches that good stuff really adds up. I have used it since my oldest was barely four and it works wonderfully! I have shared the idea with many friends, sisters and fellow-moms in search of a reward program for kids. Keep reading if you want to learn how it works.
To make the Point Jars...
super cheap supplies:
foam shapes (medium-size shapes work best)
empty jar
label
crayons
lickity split steps:
Have your kiddo decorate his own label, then stick it to the jar. Keep it in a visible place. This is how it works...
Every time your kiddo does what he's asked, goes the extra mile, is helpful, extra good, etc. give him two points. The points are actually foam shapes which are cheap, kids don't try to eat them, an you don't have to worry about keeping loose change handy!
Unless your kiddo is perfect, he'll likely slip up and ignore you or tease his brother, etc. so when something less than good happens, simply remove one point from the jar.
This teaches: good counts double, the good things that he does matter more and get more attention.
Very clearly: Good is better! Misbehavior and
acting up loses a hard-earned point, but lets them know good behavior is still worth more than the bad, which is why only one point is lost. This method helps you as a parent focus on the positive and allows a very visual tool for your child to
see how all those good {or bad!} things add up.
reward time:
Set a goal for what you'd like to use the points for... it can be for a trip to Lagoon, spending money for ToysRUs, going to see a movie in the theater, earning some extra dough for video games... whatever you and your child decide on. You set the amount. I love to use it to diffuse the high anticipation of holidays and vacations as well. I came up with this system about a month before a trip to Disneyland and it worked so well we kept it up. My kids seem to act up a bit more during times like these, so I use the point jar to motivate them to keep up the good stuff, and with all those points they earn they can get a cool souvenir or an extra package under the tree.